i have limited sympathy for people who get told “no” after a public proposal because public proposals are pretty much emotionally abusive
if you think it’s kinda cute, you can discuss it beforehand and then do a staged one later
but putting someone on the spot in front of a crowd of strangers (or worse, friends) and demanding they give you a yes or no answer to a complex question which will affect the rest of their life is
really not okay
you are NOT stagnate you are NOT at a dead end everyone around you is NOT going into an exciting phase of their life, you are in some way or another working every fucking day to just be alive and if youre alive you have stuff that you’re passionate about, that you’re going to love, and whether it manifests in a career or a relationship or a family or a friendship or just a hobby that takes up your time it is ENOUGH
You can’t pick and choose what parts of feminism you want. You can’t support your queer sisters but not your trans sisters. You can’t support your fat sisters but not your sisters of colour. Being a feminist means creating a positive and equal space for women. The second you start excluding women based on which characteristics you do or do not find appealing you have defeated the whole point of being a feminist.
I like how everyone’s furry trash but now it’s like. Classy furry trash. No neon coloured wolves, just delicately drawn foxes and monsters and fawns. Like we’re still drinking shitty alcopop but now we’ve poured it into an Art Deco champagne flute.
oh my god